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Bi+ Visibility Night
Today September 23rd, 2020 at 8 PM – 10 PM Pacific Time
Public · Bay Area Bisexual+ & Pansexual Network (BABPN) Chat
Please join the Bay Area Bi+ and Pan Network for Bi Visibility Day (also called Bisexual Pride Day, Celebrate Bisexuality Day, CBD, Bisexual Pride, and Bisexuality+ Day) for an evening Zoom get-together!
On Wednesday, September 23rd, at 5pm Pacific Time we will be hosting an event for Celebrate Bisexuality Day:
INVISIBLE NO MORE: A Celebration of Bisexuality & Bi+ Pioneers
Event is free & open to the public; register on Zoom at: bit.ly/bidaypanel
Wednesday, September 23rd is Celebrate Bisexuality Day, but what does it mean to celebrate bisexuality in 2020? As LGBTQ+ rights and awareness grow, is bisexuality becoming more accepted, or does it remain invisible and stigmatized? And as activism and communities move increasingly online, what even is "visibility" anymore? Join a panel of bisexual activist pioneers as we explore these questions and more in an unabashed claim to visibility and dignity.
Loraine Hutchins, moderator: Co-Editor, “Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out"
Luigi Ferrer: Activist, HIV/AIDS Educator
ABilly Jones-Hennin: Marine Corp Veteran, Activist
Lani Ka’ahumanu: Co-Editor, “Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out”
Robyn Ochs: Speaker, Writer, Editor of Bi Women Quarterly
BiCon 2020 Schedule (aka bitinerary) — work in progress, check back for updates.
SFBiCON's - Unico[r]nUnico[r]n has a small lineup of workshops/talks focusing on:
Anti-Racism 101: Dismantling Racism & White Supremacy How To Be A Queer Ally with Shaun Haines, Karen Fleshman, Esq. and LeRon L. Barton
Trans Awareness with Aria Sa'id, Janelle Vinson, and Sean Greene
Speed Dating (for friendship or dating) with Bex
Additional Comedy later that evening with Nick Leonard and the Bilarious Show at Martunis
The Bilarious Comedy Show at Martuni's requires a separate ticket.
*Cost is $15
tickets available at https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4344015
6pm -9pm, Saturday 12 at Martuni's, 4 Valencia Street, San Francisco.
Just another tasty treat from your bi+ activists, working to create more community for those of us who love more than one gender.
The SF BiCon Organizers (a very small group of local activists)
Anti-Racism 101 in the Queer CommunityKaren Fleshman, Esq. Founder, Racy Conversations, is an anti-racism trainer and police accountability activist. The mission of Racy Conversations is to flip 10% of white Millennials and Generation Z to anti-racism so we can have a majority anti-racist generation and transform our society.
LeRon L. Barton is a writer. LeRon’s essays have appeared in Salon, The Good Men Project, Eastbay Express, Those People, AlterNet, SF Bay view, Buzzfeed, Gorilla Convict, and Elephant Journal. His first book, “Straight Dope: A 360 degree look into American drug culture” was released in Feb 2013. LeRon’s book, “All We Really Need Is Love” is available on Amazon.
Shaun Haines is the Founder and Executive Director of San Francisco Impact Partners. His goals are to affect the remediation of disparities that impact communities that are most in need. Shaun is an Associate Member of the San Francisco Democratic Party. He is Founder and President of San Francisco Black Community Matters. He became elected in 2015 to the position of Assembly District Delegate. He was appointed to serve on the San Francisco Human Rights Commission – LGBT Advisory Committee, Commissioner on the Sunshine Ordinance Task Force and the African American Advisory Committee of the 17th Assembly District. As such Shaun understands how public policy can benefit or create consequences that impact low-income communities. Shaun is a Permanent Member of the San Francisco Police Department Chief’s LGBT Advisory Forum.
The purpose of Antiracism 101 is to educate, mobilize, and build multi-racial community. All who are interested in understanding racism—and moving from awareness to action and accountability in unlearning and eliminating racism—are encouraged to request a consultation.
Aria Sa’id is a transgender advocate and award winning political strategist based in San Francisco Bay Area. She is a founder and the Executive Director of the Compton’s Transgender Cultural District- the world’s first transgender district, celebrating the resilience, culture, and presence of transgender people in San Francisco’s famed Tenderloin neighborhood. She is the founder of Kween Culture Initiative- a social and cultural empowerment project for Black transgender women.
Janelle Vinson is an award-winning community organizer and transgender advocate native of the San Francisco Bay Area. She serves as Program Associate for the Compton’s Transgender Cultural District- the first legally recognized transgender district in the world. She also serves as Bay Area President of FLUX- a national transgender empowerment initiative through AIDS Healthcare Foundation. In addition she co-directs an annual transgender empowerment retreat, TRANScend- and is an ambassador for the National Transgender March on Washington D.C. In her work, she strives for the advancement of transgender women of color.
Sean Greene has been working in the non-profit sector on and off for the past 25 years, with the past 10 years working specifically in Volunteer Management, Event Production and Development at Breast Cancer Emergency Fund, Positive Resource Center, the GLBT Historical Society and on the Board of Directors for Folsom Street Events. Sean Greene currently serves as Director of Strategic Partnerships for the Compton's Transgender Cultural District- overseeing fundraising, event production and organizational relationship building.
The Compton's Transgender Cultural District will be leading a workshop on our work, transgender cultural competency, and the importance of both including transgender people in our spaces- as well as the need for our spaces that affirm transgender people overall.
Speed Dating (for friendship or dating)Bex is a longtime queer activist and has been engaged with numerous local nonprofits in the queer and educational spheres. She currently sits on a local board of an LGBT nonprofit, and is involved in increasing SFPD transparency. She likes dogs and identifies as femme, demisexual and queer.
Bilarious Show at Martunis Nick Leonard performs regularly as a comic and host at venues around California and beyond. For the past ten years, Nick has been producing the premiere gay comedy showcase in San Francisco, QComedy. He also performed regularly at the legendary Josie's Cabaret in San Francisco, as well as headlining, featuring, or hosting at Cobb's Comedy Club, The Punchline, Rooster T. Feathers, Russian River Resort, San Jose Improv, The Purple Onion and many other venues and events.
The Bilarious Comedy Show at Martuni's requires a separate ticket.
*Cost is $15
tickets available at https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4344015
6pm -9pm, Saturday 12 at Martuni's, 4 Valencia Street, San Francisco.
The Bilarious Show, an evening of laughs celebrating the diverse world of the bisexual community. This milestone event is a complete lineup of openly Bi comedians serving up the laughs. Too long invisible in the comedy world, the Bilarious Show changes all that with real live bisexual comics and performers speaking out about life, love, politics and people. Everybody's welcome to join us for a night of laughs, music and community with your funny Bi friends.
Self-Care Sunday at MeloMelo Kava Bar - Berkeley
Self-Care Sunday at MeloMelo Kava Bar
Introducing a new monthly social gathering for the bi+ and pan community. Non-facilitated and casual, it's a place to simply gather, chat, chill, connect and repeat.
Every 4th Sunday of the month from 7-8:30pm
The closer to 7pm you arrive, the more fun we'll all have.
This is a community run group meaning we need each of you make an effort to find the other individuals (look for bi+ bling), introduce yourself, look for a good place for the group to sit together.
MeloMelo feels somewhat like a bar but with a very chill and cozy atmosphere. Kava is a plant based beverage that is known to have calming effects. This is a non-alcohol gathering; We ask that all individuals come sober, open minded, and thirsty! They don't sell food, but you're welcome to bring your own.
We don't gatekeep, allies welcome. Spread the word.
Look for the bi and pan stickers or colors, whoever gets there first, try to grab the back corner.
Bi+ Visibility Happy Hour w/ Open Hearts
It will soon be Bi+ Visibility Day, and SFBiCON is partnering with the Open Hearts Happy Hour to bring you a warm embrace for all sexualities and identities during this Bisexual+ Awareness Week, culminating in Bi+ Visibility Day on September 23.
Also known as International Celebrate Bisexuality Day, the 23rd of September has been marked each year since 1999 to highlight biphobia and to help Bi+ folks find the Bi+ and Pan community in their geographic area.
Please join us at Virgil's Sea Room for dash of drinking, a sprinkle of laughter and a splash of consent.
The Open Hearts Club is a friendly social gathering every month for polyamorous and nonmonogamous folks and our poly-friendly friends and lovers. We are an inclusive space for LGBTQQIA and straight folks, kink and vanilla friendly alike.
We did it!
You showed up with your awesome outfits, flags, streamers, glitter and creative signs. You made the bi+ and pan community visible for not only the people watching the parade, but also the other contingents and the kofytv news broadcast (airs sept 15th).
Our growing visibility and outreach is truly touching those around us who need more representation in order to feel confident and valid under the queer umbrella and also in the straight world. You are activists and the community thrives with your involvement.
Thank you to all of you who helped organize the Bi+ and Pan Community Contingent: Martin, Lacy, Jeremy, Winfred, Grace, Marie. And all of those who collaborated in the planning document: Stephanie, Maddie, Michael, Cece, Sara and Jordan.
This was all a volunteer collaboration and our first known involvement in Oakland's Pride Parade. We're certainly learning as we go. Please send any feedback about your experience and you ideas on how we can improve for next year's Pride Parades.
Going forward, there is at least one bi/pan event every month and numerous opportunities for you to connect, contribute and benefit. The best way to stay connected and involved is through these Facebook groups and Meetup.com
Like these FB groups:
BABN (bay area bisexual network)
The bi/pan Meetup group
If you're interested in doing more volunteering for bi-activism, please reply here and let's continue the momentum. There's a lot more work to be done and a small group of us doing it. The next task is getting flyers distributed and sponsors for the two conferences Unico[r]n and BiCon.
See you soon!
March with your community and promote bisexual+ and pansexual visibility, representation and awareness. We are #052!
About this EventMarch with your community and promote bisexual+ and pansexual visibility, representation and awareness.
The bi+ community had a great turnout in the SF Pride parade this year with nearly 50 people showing up, making signs, decorating, holding flags, marching and representing. We need you again, let's show Oakland that we're loud and proud. We're queer and we're here.
Actual time, meeting location, volunteer duties, and props needed will be posted as we know them.
Love, your bi+ community activists
Update:Parade Lineup Process
(Our exact lineup location: #52)
Lineup time: 9:00am-10:45am (our organizers will be there by 9:30am)
Marchers into position: 10:45am-11:00am
The parade starts at 11:00am
14th St between Broadway and Jefferson St, Oakland, CA
- Lineup starts at 9:00am and occurs on 14th Street on the two blocks between Broadway and Jefferson St. At least one representative from your contingent should show up before 9:30am to check in.
- To check in, find a parade Assembly Captain in a bright red "Parade Staff" shirt and identify what group you are representing. They will confirm your arrival, give you some parade information, and direct your group to their assigned rallying location.
- Everyone else in your contingent, who are not vehicle drivers or your check-in representative, can show up a little later- tell them to make it to Assembly by 10:30am at the latest. If people would like to show up earlier- there will be a pancake breakfast as well as a Zumba class right nearby the assembly area, so there will be things to do- and of course connecting with all of the fun people marching in this year's parade!
- At 10:45 we will call for all marchers to get into position. That's the time to get everyone together, lined up, ready to go, and any vehicle drivers should get to their vehicles and start their engines.
- At 11:00am we will give the signal, and the first contingents will turn left begin to roll down Broadway! Your contingent will need to do some movement in the assembly area before reaching Broadway. We will first load all of the contingents, one at a time, on the left (North) side of the assembly area, followed by the right (South) side.
- Once on Broadway, the parade proceeds from 14th to 21st street. All along the way, sing and dance, hand stuff out to the crowd- be exciting! Do your best to show your Pride! Just please make sure to keep any marchers well clear of moving vehicles, and avoid having participants jump on or off of parade vehicles before the end.
- When your contingent reaches the end of the route, another "Parade Staff" member in a red shirt will direct your marchers toward the Festival area.
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I am Martin, one of the organizers for the Bay Area Bisexual Network's SF Pride Contingent, and I wanted to invite you, your organizations and Bay Area LGBT Centers to spread the word that we are having a contingent in the SF Pride Parade for the entire bi/pan+ community. The Generations of Resistance to Bi+ Erasure - 2019 SF Pride March will be for all of us, whether you are bi, pan, queer, fluid, omni or another non-monosexual identity, let's bring visibility to our Bi/Pan+ groups through a large contingent representing the vast bi+ community.
Generations of Resistance to Bi+ Erasure
Sunday, June 30th, 2019
From around 10:00 till 1:pm
Site to meet TBA, Near Market and Beale St.,
San Francisco, CA
First, we strongly suggest that every person who marches with the bi/pan+ contingent watch the video for contingent monitors and then take the quiz associated with our contingent (BA9118). Participants will be asked to select a Contingent Training Code from a drop-down menu and to enter their contact information that will then be forwarded to our organizing team. We will be unable to march if we do not get at least eight (8) contingent monitors and will not step off with a vehicle unless there are at least four identified wheel monitors checked in with the lead organizer on site by 9:30 AM PST.
OUR GROUP'S CODE IS: BA9118
Secondly, we are asking that all groups representing community will follow our code of conduct which touches on consent, public behavior, smoking, discrimination/respecting differences, gender, sexuality, culture & race, confidentiality and getting help both in the lead upto and during the parade.
Code of Conduct for the SF Pride Bi/Pan+ Contingent:
The organizers will try to deal fairly and respectfully with any issue brought to us. We may also make reasonable requests that are not specifically included here.
Please remember that everyone is at a different stage of awareness about various issues, and don’t assume people are being malicious.
If you are able, please consider kindly educating people when they make mistakes – this includes everyone, even the organizing team!
People are responsible for themselves, their actions, and their own health. Be aware of your physical health and well-being: hydrate often and make a mental note of any nearby restroom facilities and extra bring sunscreen if possible.
Consent is crucial to us all participating fully, it is important the no one in the SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent should be put under any pressure to join in with things they do not want to do. This includes but is not limited to:
• hugs or touching
• taking part in an activity
• disclosing information
• any sexual behavior
• discussing topics which are sensitive or personal
• or even having a chat.
Ask every time. Don’t assume that because someone said “yes” earlier that they will still say “yes” the next time.
It is fine to ask someone once if they would like to do something. For example, “Would you like a hug?” If they refuse, continuing to ask is pestering them and will be viewed as harassment and reported to SF Pride's security.
If someone asks you to leave them alone, do so. You can also ask the organizers to tell someone to leave you alone.
In public, “no”, “stop”, “don’t do that” or similar words and phrases will be taken at face value by the SF Pride organizers and volunteers, regardless of context.
Our SF Pride contingent should be a place where people feel free to express their sexuality, but it is not a sex or fetish play party. We ask that overtly sexual behavior be kept out of the parade and rout down Market Street. Please keep public behavior within what is normally publicly acceptable at a Pride parade.
Our SF Pride contingent attendees should remained fully clothed in all public areas, except for when breastfeeding. All nipples, genitalia and bums must be securely covered by clothing.
Everyone on the parade rout deserves to feel safe and no one deserves to be shouted at, sworn at, or made to feel threatened.
Please do not smoke either regular or e-cigarettes anywhere on either the rout or the staging area, as vapors from these devices can be triggering for people with asthma and related conditions.
Discrimination and Respecting Differences
Our SF Pride contingent should be a safe space for all attendees, regardless of ethnicity, class, gender, disability, religion, spiritual belief, age, or lifestyle. Bigoted behavior of any kind will not be tolerated and you may be ejected from our group at any time along the rout by the SF Pride security team including our contingent monitors.
Don’t make negative assumptions or stereotype people on the basis of their skin color, physical features, race, accent or religious belief. Do not make negative comments about people based on the characteristics outlined above.
No Racism, sexism, classism, sizeism, transphobia, TERF’s, body shaming, diet talk or concern trolling.
People who attend our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent may define their gender in a range of different ways, which we understand aren’t always easy to spot. If you are unsure of the pronoun someone uses, we encourage you to ask them, or avoid gendered language by using “they” instead of “he” or “she”.
Once you have been informed of someone’s gender pronouns, whether by asking them or being corrected, please try to use these pronouns correctly.
We accept people’s self-identified gender for all purposes.
People are welcome to attend our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent regardless of how they define their sexuality. Do not criticize someone based on what label (or lack of) they use to define their sexuality.
All identities in the queer community have equal value. Bi, pan, demi, questioning, ace, enby, gay, lesbian, etc., all belong equally.
Culture & Race
Negative comments about any aspect of a person’s culture or race should not be made.
Fetishization of cultural markers and physical features should be avoided. An example of fetishization of cultural markers could be, “that’s such an exotic name” or “your dreadlocks are amazing, can I touch them?”
Please respect people’s privacy, and be aware that not everyone in our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent may be ‘out’ about their sexuality or other aspects of their lifestyle, such as BDSM or non-monogamy.
Ask permission before identifying anyone publicly.
This includes in other conversations in our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent or on social media relating to our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent (e.g. the Facebook event). ‘Public’ also includes write-ups on personal websites or on social networking sites such as Facebook.
If you find yourself talking to someone you met in our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent after the event has ended, be careful if you need to remind them where you met – you don’t know who else might be listening! Perhaps just remind them that the event was in SF.
Do not take any photographs or recordings of people without their express permission. It is your responsibility to make sure everyone in shot is happy to be photographed.
Also be aware that other people, outside of our consent filled contingent, will be taking pictures and video from the sidelines and the larger parade will be filmed and live streamed. If this makes you uncomfortable, please feel free to attend any other event around pride week in lieu of the parade.
If you give permission for your photo to be taken, please assume it may end up online, linked to you by name, as people may not remember your preferences after our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent has disbanded.
If you want support in challenging anyone’s behavior or anything they’ve said, please come and talk to the organizers who can assist you or speak to the person for you. We will be wearing contingent monitor stickers and the lead organizer will be wearing a black/rainbow SF Giants hat.
The organizers very much want to know about things that make people in our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent less likely to attend another bi+ event. If anything happens that makes you uncomfortable or unwelcome – even if you do not want us to do anything about it, or feel it is your fault – please let us know.
Breaches of the Code of Conduct
If anything happens to you in the run-up to, including the step off and in our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent that you feel is a breach of our Code of Conduct, or you have witnessed inappropriate behavior, we want to know so we can improve your experience.
Additionally, we are always open to adding to the Code of Conduct, should you feel we have missed something.
You can talk to us:
• in person: you can identify us by our name tags (and contingent monitor identifiers)
• by text or phone: 415-845-1157 (main organizer)
• by email: email@example.com
Things we can do to help:
If something has happened that makes you uncomfortable we can talk to anyone else involved. We are happy to do so even if you haven’t communicated this to them, since that is not always easy to do. We will listen to what you think would help, if you have any ideas.
Examples of things we as a community can do:
• communicate to others that there is a problem
• ask for an apology
• ask them to leave you alone
• require them to not be where you are
• exclude them from the rest of our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent by contacting the SF Pride parade security team
These will be implemented at the discretion of our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent team.
If you mess up, acknowledge, apologize and learn from it. Practice saying, “Thank you for letting me know what I did and how it was inappropriate”. Strive to improve your behavior.
Breaches of this Code of Conduct or reasonable requests will, in most cases, be met with a warning from a member of the organizing team. If warnings are ignored, or in the event of serious misconduct, we reserve the right to ask anyone to leave all or part of our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent. We reserve the right to pass on details of complaints to future SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent organizers.
-This CoC was adapted (with adjustments) from, SFBICON & BiCon UK's Code of Conduct, with permission.
Hello BABN! I’m Dr. Lindsey Brooks, a proud member of the bi+ community and a San Francisco psychologist.
Every day, I see and face biphobia like this, and I’ll bet you do, too:
And while bisexuals have amazing levels of resilience--which you can read more about in The 5 Secret Strengths of Bisexuals--studies have shown that internalizing society’s biphobia, or having a partner who isn’t supportive of your bi+ identity, can take a toll on your mental health (Taylor et al., 2019).
We deal with some tough stuff as bisexuals, but the good news is that there are lots of proven, effective ways to cope with biphobia.
You can bolster your resilience and keep yourself on a positive path with your mental health. Here are just a few ideas to get you started. Remember, you don’t have to do them all at once, but maybe find one idea that’s a good fit for you.
What are your go-to coping tools? How do you bolster your resilience? I’d love to hear people talking about this at our next BABN get-together!
Written by: Lindsey Brooks, Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist www.drlindseytherapy.com
Taylor, J, Power, J, Smith, E & Rathbone, M. (2019). Bisexual mental health: Findings from the ‘Who I Am’ study. Australian Journal of General Practice, 48 (3).
Lindsey Brooks, Ph.D.
Licensed Psychologist - PSY24418
Client Portal: https://drlindseytherapy.clientsecure.me
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