The evolution of the word 'bisexual' — and why it's still misunderstood
The pervasive stereotype that bisexuality is an exclusive and limiting label is something bi activists have been fighting for decades.

On Wednesday, September 23rd, at 5pm Pacific Time we will be hosting an event for Celebrate Bisexuality Day:
 
INVISIBLE NO MORE: A Celebration of Bisexuality & Bi+ Pioneers
Event is free & open to the public; register on Zoom at: bit.ly/bidaypanel
 
Wednesday, September 23rd is Celebrate Bisexuality Day, but what does it mean to celebrate bisexuality in 2020? As LGBTQ+ rights and awareness grow, is bisexuality becoming more accepted, or does it remain invisible and stigmatized? And as activism and communities move increasingly online, what even is "visibility" anymore? Join a panel of bisexual activist pioneers as we explore these questions and more in an unabashed claim to visibility and dignity.
 
With:
 
Loraine Hutchins, moderator: Co-Editor, “Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out"
Luigi Ferrer: Activist, HIV/AIDS Educator
ABilly Jones-Hennin: Marine Corp Veteran, Activist
Lani Ka’ahumanu: Co-Editor, “Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out”
Robyn Ochs: Speaker, Writer, Editor of Bi Women Quarterly

BiCon 2020 Schedule (aka bitinerary) — work in progress, check back for updates.

Anti-Racism 101: Dismantling Racism & White Supremacy How To Be A Queer Ally with Shaun Haines, Karen Fleshman, Esq. and LeRon L. Barton

Trans Awareness with Aria Sa'id, Janelle Vinson, and Sean Greene

Speed Dating (for friendship or dating) with Bex

Additional Comedy later that evening with Nick Leonard and the Bilarious Show at Martunis

The Bilarious Comedy Show at Martuni's requires a separate ticket.
*Cost is $15
tickets available at https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4344015


6pm -9pm, Saturday 12 at Martuni's, 4 Valencia Street, San Francisco.
https://www.facebook.com/events/369503070404304/?active_tab=discussion
Just another tasty treat from your bi+ activists, working to create more community for those of us who love more than one gender.


The SF BiCon Organizers (a very small group of local activists)
Twitter: @sfbicon
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sfpanbicon/
Email: sfbicon@gmail.com
Website: www.sfbicon.com
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Anti-Racism 101 in the Queer CommunityKaren Fleshman, Esq. Founder, Racy Conversations, is an anti-racism trainer and police accountability activist. The mission of Racy Conversations is to flip 10% of white Millennials and Generation Z to anti-racism so we can have a majority anti-racist generation and transform our society.

LeRon L. Barton is a writer. LeRon’s essays have appeared in Salon, The Good Men Project, Eastbay Express, Those People, AlterNet, SF Bay view, Buzzfeed, Gorilla Convict, and Elephant Journal. His first book, “Straight Dope: A 360 degree look into American drug culture” was released in Feb 2013. LeRon’s book, “All We Really Need Is Love” is available on Amazon.

Shaun Haines is the Founder and Executive Director of San Francisco Impact Partners. His goals are to affect the remediation of disparities that impact communities that are most in need. Shaun is an Associate Member of the San Francisco Democratic Party. He is Founder and President of San Francisco Black Community Matters. He became elected in 2015 to the position of Assembly District Delegate. He was appointed to serve on the San Francisco Human Rights Commission – LGBT Advisory Committee, Commissioner on the Sunshine Ordinance Task Force and the African American Advisory Committee of the 17th Assembly District. As such Shaun understands how public policy can benefit or create consequences that impact low-income communities. Shaun is a Permanent Member of the San Francisco Police Department Chief’s LGBT Advisory Forum.

The purpose of Antiracism 101 is to educate, mobilize, and build multi-racial community. All who are interested in understanding racism—and moving from awareness to action and accountability in unlearning and eliminating racism—are encouraged to request a consultation.

Trans Awareness
Aria Sa’id is a transgender advocate and award winning political strategist based in San Francisco Bay Area. She is a founder and the Executive Director of the Compton’s Transgender Cultural District- the world’s first transgender district, celebrating the resilience, culture, and presence of transgender people in San Francisco’s famed Tenderloin neighborhood. She is the founder of Kween Culture Initiative- a social and cultural empowerment project for Black transgender women.

Janelle Vinson is an award-winning community organizer and transgender advocate native of the San Francisco Bay Area. She serves as Program Associate for the Compton’s Transgender Cultural District- the first legally recognized transgender district in the world. She also serves as Bay Area President of FLUX- a national transgender empowerment initiative through AIDS Healthcare Foundation. In addition she co-directs an annual transgender empowerment retreat, TRANScend- and is an ambassador for the National Transgender March on Washington D.C. In her work, she strives for the advancement of transgender women of color.

Sean Greene has been working in the non-profit sector on and off for the past 25 years, with the past 10 years working specifically in Volunteer Management, Event Production and Development at Breast Cancer Emergency Fund, Positive Resource Center, the GLBT Historical Society and on the Board of Directors for Folsom Street Events. Sean Greene currently serves as Director of Strategic Partnerships for the Compton's Transgender Cultural District- overseeing fundraising, event production and organizational relationship building.

The Compton's Transgender Cultural District will be leading a workshop on our work, transgender cultural competency, and the importance of both including transgender people in our spaces- as well as the need for our spaces that affirm transgender people overall.

Speed Dating (for friendship or dating)Bex is a longtime queer activist and has been engaged with numerous local nonprofits in the queer and educational spheres. She currently sits on a local board of an LGBT nonprofit, and is involved in increasing SFPD transparency. She likes dogs and identifies as femme, demisexual and queer.

Bilarious Show at Martunis Nick Leonard performs regularly as a comic and host at venues around California and beyond. For the past ten years, Nick has been producing the premiere gay comedy showcase in San Francisco, QComedy. He also performed regularly at the legendary Josie's Cabaret in San Francisco, as well as headlining, featuring, or hosting at Cobb's Comedy Club, The Punchline, Rooster T. Feathers, Russian River Resort, San Jose Improv, The Purple Onion and many other venues and events.
The Bilarious Comedy Show at Martuni's requires a separate ticket.
*Cost is $15
tickets available at https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4344015

6pm -9pm, Saturday 12 at Martuni's, 4 Valencia Street, San Francisco.
https://www.facebook.com/events/369503070404304/?active_tab=discussion
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The Bilarious Show, an evening of laughs celebrating the diverse world of the bisexual community. This milestone event is a complete lineup of openly Bi comedians serving up the laughs. Too long invisible in the comedy world, the Bilarious Show changes all that with real live bisexual comics and performers speaking out about life, love, politics and people. Everybody's welcome to join us for a night of laughs, music and community with your funny Bi friends.

We did it! 

You showed up with your awesome outfits, flags, streamers, glitter and creative signs. You made the bi+ and pan community visible for not only the people watching the parade, but also the other contingents and the kofytv news broadcast (airs sept 15th).

Our growing visibility and outreach is truly touching those around us who need more representation in order to feel confident and valid under the queer umbrella and also in the straight world. You are activists and the community thrives with your involvement. 
Thank you to all of you who helped organize the Bi+ and Pan Community Contingent: Martin, Lacy, Jeremy, Winfred, Grace, Marie. And all of those who collaborated in the planning document: Stephanie, Maddie, Michael, Cece, Sara and Jordan.


This was all a volunteer collaboration and our first known involvement in Oakland's Pride Parade. We're certainly learning as we go. Please send any feedback about your experience and you ideas on how we can improve for next year's Pride Parades. 

Going forward, there is at least one bi/pan event every month and numerous opportunities for you to connect, contribute and benefit. The best way to stay connected and involved is through these Facebook groups and Meetup.com

Like these FB groups:
sfbicon
BABN (bay area bisexual network)

Check out:
The bi/pan Meetup group
www.sfbicon.com
If you're interested in doing more volunteering for bi-activism, please reply here and let's continue the momentum. There's a lot more work to be done and a small group of us doing it. The next task is getting flyers distributed and sponsors for the two conferences Unico[r]n and BiCon. 

See you soon!
Marisa 

March with your community and promote bisexual+ and pansexual visibility, representation and awareness. We are #052!

About this EventMarch with your community and promote bisexual+ and pansexual visibility, representation and awareness.

The bi+ community had a great turnout in the SF Pride parade this year with nearly 50 people showing up, making signs, decorating, holding flags, marching and representing. We need you again, let's show Oakland that we're loud and proud. We're queer and we're here.

Actual time, meeting location, volunteer duties, and props needed will be posted as we know them.

Love, your bi+ community activists
Update:Parade Lineup Process
(Our exact lineup location: #52)


Lineup time: 9:00am-10:45am (our organizers will be there by 9:30am)
Marchers into position: 10:45am-11:00am
The parade starts at 11:00am
14th St between Broadway and Jefferson St, Oakland, CA


- Lineup starts at 9:00am and occurs on 14th Street on the two blocks between Broadway and Jefferson St. At least one representative from your contingent should show up before 9:30am to check in.


- To check in, find a parade Assembly Captain in a bright red "Parade Staff" shirt and identify what group you are representing. They will confirm your arrival, give you some parade information, and direct your group to their assigned rallying location.


- Everyone else in your contingent, who are not vehicle drivers or your check-in representative, can show up a little later- tell them to make it to Assembly by 10:30am at the latest. If people would like to show up earlier- there will be a pancake breakfast as well as a Zumba class right nearby the assembly area, so there will be things to do- and of course connecting with all of the fun people marching in this year's parade!


- At 10:45 we will call for all marchers to get into position. That's the time to get everyone together, lined up, ready to go, and any vehicle drivers should get to their vehicles and start their engines.


- At 11:00am we will give the signal, and the first contingents will turn left begin to roll down Broadway! Your contingent will need to do some movement in the assembly area before reaching Broadway. We will first load all of the contingents, one at a time, on the left (North) side of the assembly area, followed by the right (South) side.


- Once on Broadway, the parade proceeds from 14th to 21st street. All along the way, sing and dance, hand stuff out to the crowd- be exciting! Do your best to show your Pride! Just please make sure to keep any marchers well clear of moving vehicles, and avoid having participants jump on or off of parade vehicles before the end.


- When your contingent reaches the end of the route, another "Parade Staff" member in a red shirt will direct your marchers toward the Festival area.

Hello there,

I am Martin, one of the organizers for the Bay Area Bisexual Network's SF Pride Contingent, and I wanted to invite you, your organizations and Bay Area LGBT Centers to spread the word that we are having a contingent in the SF Pride Parade for the entire bi/pan+ community. The Generations of Resistance to Bi+ Erasure - 2019 SF Pride March will be for all of us, whether you are bi, pan, queer, fluid, omni or another non-monosexual identity, let's bring visibility to our Bi/Pan+ groups through a large contingent representing the vast bi+ community.

Generations of Resistance to Bi+ Erasure
Sunday, June 30th, 2019
From around 10:00 till 1:pm
Site to meet TBA, Near Market and Beale St.,
San Francisco, CA

First, we strongly suggest that every person who marches with the bi/pan+ contingent watch the video for contingent monitors and then take the quiz associated with our contingent (BA9118). Participants will be asked to select a Contingent Training Code from a drop-down menu and to enter their contact information that will then be forwarded to our organizing team. We will be unable to march if we do not get at least eight (8) contingent monitors and will not step off with a vehicle unless there are at least four identified wheel monitors checked in with the lead organizer on site by 9:30 AM PST.

OUR GROUP'S CODE IS: BA9118    
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8lXBfzG17QA

Secondly, we are asking that all groups representing community will follow our code of conduct which touches on consent, public behavior, smoking, discrimination/respecting differences, gender, sexuality, culture & race, confidentiality and getting help both in the lead upto and during the parade.

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Code of Conduct for the SF Pride Bi/Pan+ Contingent:
The organizers will try to deal fairly and respectfully with any issue brought to us. We may also make reasonable requests that are not specifically included here.

Please remember that everyone is at a different stage of awareness about various issues, and don’t assume people are being malicious.
If you are able, please consider kindly educating people when they make mistakes – this includes everyone, even the organizing team!
People are responsible for themselves, their actions, and their own health. Be aware of your physical health and well-being: hydrate often and make a mental note of any nearby restroom facilities and extra bring sunscreen if possible.

Consent
Consent is crucial to us all participating fully, it is important the no one in the SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent should be put under any pressure to join in with things they do not want to do. This includes but is not limited to:

• hugs or touching
• taking part in an activity
• disclosing information
• any sexual behavior
• discussing topics which are sensitive or personal
• or even having a chat.

Ask every time. Don’t assume that because someone said “yes” earlier that they will still say “yes” the next time.

It is fine to ask someone once if they would like to do something. For example, “Would you like a hug?” If they refuse, continuing to ask is pestering them and will be viewed as harassment and reported to SF Pride's security.

If someone asks you to leave them alone, do so. You can also ask the organizers to tell someone to leave you alone.
In public, “no”, “stop”, “don’t do that” or similar words and phrases will be taken at face value by the SF Pride organizers and volunteers, regardless of context.

Public Behavior
Our SF Pride contingent should be a place where people feel free to express their sexuality, but it is not a sex or fetish play party. We ask that overtly sexual behavior be kept out of the parade and rout down Market Street. Please keep public behavior within what is normally publicly acceptable at a Pride parade.

Our SF Pride contingent attendees should remained fully clothed in all public areas, except for when breastfeeding. All nipples, genitalia and bums must be securely covered by clothing.

Everyone on the parade rout deserves to feel safe and no one deserves to be shouted at, sworn at, or made to feel threatened.

Smoking
Please do not smoke either regular or e-cigarettes anywhere on either the rout or the staging area, as vapors from these devices can be triggering for people with asthma and related conditions.

Discrimination and Respecting Differences
Our SF Pride contingent should be a safe space for all attendees, regardless of ethnicity, class, gender, disability, religion, spiritual belief, age, or lifestyle. Bigoted behavior of any kind will not be tolerated and you may be ejected from our group at any time along the rout by the SF Pride security team including our contingent monitors.

Don’t make negative assumptions or stereotype people on the basis of their skin color, physical features, race, accent or religious belief. Do not make negative comments about people based on the characteristics outlined above.

No Racism, sexism, classism, sizeism, transphobia, TERF’s, body shaming, diet talk or concern trolling.

Gender
People who attend our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent may define their gender in a range of different ways, which we understand aren’t always easy to spot. If you are unsure of the pronoun someone uses, we encourage you to ask them, or avoid gendered language by using “they” instead of “he” or “she”.

Once you have been informed of someone’s gender pronouns, whether by asking them or being corrected, please try to use these pronouns correctly.

We accept people’s self-identified gender for all purposes.

Sexuality
People are welcome to attend our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent regardless of how they define their sexuality. Do not criticize someone based on what label (or lack of) they use to define their sexuality.

All identities in the queer community have equal value. Bi, pan, demi, questioning, ace, enby, gay, lesbian, etc., all belong equally.

Culture & Race
Negative comments about any aspect of a person’s culture or race should not be made.

Fetishization of cultural markers and physical features should be avoided. An example of fetishization of cultural markers could be, “that’s such an exotic name” or “your dreadlocks are amazing, can I touch them?”

Confidentiality
Please respect people’s privacy, and be aware that not everyone in our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent may be ‘out’ about their sexuality or other aspects of their lifestyle, such as BDSM or non-monogamy.
Ask permission before identifying anyone publicly.

This includes in other conversations in our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent or on social media relating to our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent (e.g. the Facebook event). ‘Public’ also includes write-ups on personal websites or on social networking sites such as Facebook.

If you find yourself talking to someone you met in our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent after the event has ended, be careful if you need to remind them where you met – you don’t know who else might be listening! Perhaps just remind them that the event was in SF.

Do not take any photographs or recordings of people without their express permission. It is your responsibility to make sure everyone in shot is happy to be photographed.

Also be aware that other people, outside of our consent filled contingent, will be taking pictures and video from the sidelines and the larger parade will be filmed and live streamed. If this makes you uncomfortable, please feel free to attend any other event around pride week in lieu of the parade.

If you give permission for your photo to be taken, please assume it may end up online, linked to you by name, as people may not remember your preferences after our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent has disbanded.

Getting Help
If you want support in challenging anyone’s behavior or anything they’ve said, please come and talk to the organizers who can assist you or speak to the person for you. We will be wearing contingent monitor stickers and the lead organizer will be wearing a black/rainbow SF Giants hat.
The organizers very much want to know about things that make people in our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent less likely to attend another bi+ event. If anything happens that makes you uncomfortable or unwelcome – even if you do not want us to do anything about it, or feel it is your fault – please let us know.

Breaches of the Code of Conduct
If anything happens to you in the run-up to, including the step off and in our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent that you feel is a breach of our Code of Conduct, or you have witnessed inappropriate behavior, we want to know so we can improve your experience.
Additionally, we are always open to adding to the Code of Conduct, should you feel we have missed something.

You can talk to us:
• in person: you can identify us by our name tags (and contingent monitor identifiers)
• by text or phone: 415-845-1157 (main organizer)
• by email: martin@sfbabn.org

Things we can do to help:
If something has happened that makes you uncomfortable we can talk to anyone else involved. We are happy to do so even if you haven’t communicated this to them, since that is not always easy to do. We will listen to what you think would help, if you have any ideas.
Examples of things we as a community can do:

• communicate to others that there is a problem
• ask for an apology
• ask them to leave you alone
• require them to not be where you are
• exclude them from the rest of our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent by contacting the SF Pride parade security team

These will be implemented at the discretion of our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent team.

If you mess up, acknowledge, apologize and learn from it. Practice saying, “Thank you for letting me know what I did and how it was inappropriate”. Strive to improve your behavior.

Breaches of this Code of Conduct or reasonable requests will, in most cases, be met with a warning from a member of the organizing team. If warnings are ignored, or in the event of serious misconduct, we reserve the right to ask anyone to leave all or part of our SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent. We reserve the right to pass on details of complaints to future SF Pride Bi/Pan+ contingent organizers.

-This CoC was adapted (with adjustments) from, SFBICON & BiCon UK's Code of Conduct, with permission.

Hello BABN!  I’m Dr. Lindsey Brooks, a proud member of the bi+ community and a San Francisco psychologist. 

Every day, I see and face biphobia like this, and I’ll bet you do, too:

• Assumptions about your identity based on your partner’s gender (e.g. “You must be gay (or straight) because your partner’s gender is x”)
  
  
• People denying bisexuality even exists, especially for bi+ men
  
  
• Not being considered a “real” bisexual unless you’ve dated or had sex with people across the gender spectrum
• Queer groups only focusing their efforts on the needs of L & G folks
• Invisibility of bisexuals in everyday language and media representation

And while bisexuals have amazing levels of resilience--which you can read more about in The 5 Secret Strengths of Bisexuals--studies have shown that internalizing society’s biphobia, or having a partner who isn’t supportive of your bi+ identity, can take a toll on your mental health (Taylor et al., 2019).

We deal with some tough stuff as bisexuals, but the good news is that there are lots of proven, effective ways to cope with biphobia.

You can bolster your resilience and keep yourself on a positive path with your mental health. Here are just a few ideas to get you started. Remember, you don’t have to do them all at once, but maybe find one idea that’s a good fit for you.

1. Understand unhealthy thought patterns. Notice any common biphobic negative thought patterns you may have about yourself. Pay close attention, because they can sneak up on you when you’re not noticing.
   
   You might think, “I’m not bi enough because…,” “I’m not a real bisexual because…,” or “My partner seems uncomfortable with my bisexual attractions, maybe there is something wrong about being bisexual.”  
   
   Try to pause these thoughts from taking you over by saying, “This is just biphobia talking, I don’t have to believe these thoughts.”  Repeat over and over. You will probably have to do this many times for yourself until you get the hang of pausing these thoughts.

 

1. Change your self-talk. Once you’re more aware of your thought patterns, begin to use more positive self-talk to replace them. Try instead: “I can define bisexuality for myself,” “My identity is valid, not matter who I’ve dated or slept with,” and “I deserve a partner who supports my bisexuality.”

 

1. Make a gratitude list. Make a list of all the reasons you are grateful for being bisexual and the awesome strengths you have as a bisexual. Maybe even add the names of bisexual role models or fantastic bisexual people in your life. Look back at this list when you need to call upon your strength.

 

1. Build a bi-supportive community. Find bi-supportive friends and community you can lean on when things are hard. They can remind you that you are important, valid, and valued. They can share their similar experiences and remind you that you’re not alone. As a special bonus, the more bi-supportive friends you have, the more likely you are to find a bi-supportive partner.

 

1. Learn mindfulness skills. Learning these skills are great for anyone and everyone, but they are especially powerful for bisexual folks to help cultivate an internal sense of strength and well-being. To help you feel ready to go back out in the world after a particularly tough day, start small by practicing mindfulness just 3 minutes a day with a free app like Calm or Headspace. Increase the time as you feel ready.

 

1. Work on bi+ advocacy efforts. Helping to create systemic change can be empowering and help you feel in control. Think about small everyday ways you can advocate for the community. Think about big systemic changes and how you can help organize bite-size steps to make them happen. An important caveat here: when embarking on advocacy make sure to balance self-care with activism. While advocacy can be super-empowering, it can also lead to burnout if we don’t keep things in balance.
   
   

Pick just one of these simple tools to commit to doing regularly for yourself and see what a powerful impact it can have on your mental health. I see it be effective over and over again for my clients.

What are your go-to coping tools? How do you bolster your resilience? I’d love to hear people talking about this at our next BABN get-together!

Written by: Lindsey Brooks, Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist www.drlindseytherapy.com 

References:
Taylor, J, Power, J, Smith, E & Rathbone, M. (2019). Bisexual mental health: Findings from the ‘Who I Am’ study. Australian Journal of General Practice, 48 (3).

Lindsey Brooks, Ph.D.
Licensed Psychologist - PSY24418
Pronouns: she/her/hers

Website: drlindseytherapy.com
Client Portal: https://drlindseytherapy.clientsecure.me
Progressive Therapy In San Francisco
415-737-5540 (phone)

Written by: Lindsey Brooks, Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist 

There is strength and power in the bisexual+ community.

If you’ve read many articles or research on bisexuality and mental health, you’ve heard all about the “stresses” and “risk factors” for bi+ folks. But if you’re reading this article, it means that you’re connected with BABN, and you probably know from your own experience the strength and power of the bi+ community.

I know that strength and power, too. I’m Dr. Lindsey Brooks, a San Francisco psychologist and proud member of the bi+ community. In this and upcoming guest blogs for BABN, I’m excited to share the positive psychological aspects and strengths of our community for a change.

And yes, I promise, there are many.

For example, coming out as bisexual is shown by recent research to be associated with improved relationships, a feeling of living more authentically, and improved mental health (Brownfield et al., 2018).

I see this reflected in my own work with bi+ clients: The stronger you feel within your own identity, the more you can genuinely connect with others. This connection has powerful benefits for a sense of happiness and belonging. (It’s also important to note that not everyone has the privilege and safety to come out, and not sharing your identity may also be an equally important choice for your mental health.)

In my work with the bi+ community over the past decade, I have witnessed many strengths of the bi+ experience. Here are some of my favorite strengths of being bisexual, based on my experience with bi+ clients and supported by recent research (Scales et al., 2010).

1. Self-awareness. Recent research suggests that bisexuals make up more than half of the LGB community (Gates, 2011), but have less visibility than their LG counterparts in our culture and society. In the journey of becoming self-aware, it may take time and introspection to first understand that bisexuality even exists, much less understand your own bisexuality. Making sense of your attractions across the gender spectrum can take time. During this reflection time, you can gain more clarity not only on your sexuality, but on who you are as a person. What a wonderful bonus gift of a bisexual identity!

 

1. Strong sense of self. Being bisexual in a binary world often means dealing with people who invalidate, erase, or simply refuse to believe your identity. This can be very painful! And, it also gives you practice at reaffirming for yourself, over and over, that you know who you are. You learn to provide yourself that unconditional love and acceptance. Over time, this can build a powerful inner strength and sense of self-love.

 

1. Infinite capacity for empathy. The bi+ experience creates a great amount of space to empathize with a wide range of life experiences, including multiple marginalized groups from cultural, sexual, and gender diverse communities. Perhaps it’s the experience of relationships with people across the gender spectrum, or the experience of feeling “in between,” that allows for this empathy to grow. I find this deep empathy benefits bisexual folks both personally and professionally in so many ways.

 

1. Positioned to be an ally and advocate. As a bi+ person, you are more likely to move in and out of different community spaces. Perhaps you have queer, straight, and bi+ communities you move within. This gives you opportunity to be a bridge between these communities. You can speak up and advocate when you hear biphobia in the straight or gay community. You can speak up and advocate when you hear homophobia, transphobia, racism, or sexism in any community. As a trusted part of more than one community, your voice can carry weight and influence that others may not have access to.

 

1. Write your own script. There is no societal script for what it means to be bisexual. This gives you space to write your own script, and to create relationships and make life choices that work for you. This makes room to break gender expectations, explore what relationship boundaries work for you and your partner(s), and live by your values. You get to define your own life in a way that fosters creativity and joy!

What are your strengths as a bisexual person? I’d love to hear people talking about this at your next BABN get-together!

Written by: Lindsey Brooks, Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist www.drlindseytherapy.com  



References:

Brownfield, Jenna M., Brown, Chris, Jeevanba, Sathya Baanu, VanMattson, Sarah B. Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity, Vol 5(2), Jun 2018, 220-232

Gates, G. J. (2011). How many people are lesbian, gay, bisexual, and
transgender? Retrieved from https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/wp-content/uploads/Gates-How-Many-People-LGBT-Apr-2011.pdf

Scales Rostosky, S., Riggle, E. D., Pascale-Hague, D., & McCants, L. E. (2010). The positive aspects of a bisexual self-identification. Psychology and Sexuality, 1, 131–144. http://dx.doi.org/10.1080/19419899.2010.484595